The subconscious is overdue a software upgrade. This primitive and emotional part of your brain follows rules for keeping you safe and well based on the caveman days, where sabre-toothed tigers and other predators were the biggest threat. If you have ever had a battle going on in your head between what you believe you want to do, and the part of you that seems to hold you back, then this book is for you.
I enjoyed this book immensely; it offers sensible advice and says new things in an accessible way. All my research is geared towards helping us understand why we are as we are, and why we act the way we do, and “The caveman rules” clearly helps us to do those things. It could be as big as “Emotional intelligence”!
Professor Trevor Harley, C. Psychol., FBPsS
Chair of Cognitive Psychology
School of Psychology
University of Dundee
One day, when my daughter was around 3 years old, she started asking "Are you happy mummy?". I would answer "Yes" through gritted teeth. I hated lying to her. Due to a pretty grim childhood, I hated everything about myself and my life.
Because of that childhood, I have been conditioned not to talk. Not to reveal the secrets of what went on at home. Keep up the front and don’t ever tell. But that conditioning didn't apply to the written word and over the last few years I’ve discovered that I can write what I can’t speak.
In June 2011, I embarked on a journey to transform myself, and I found that it helped me and others to write down what was going on in my mind.
This book describes that journey – a series of blog posts tracking how I transformed from a person who hated living, a person who never looked forward to the next minute let alone the next year and a person who was unable to appreciate the people and things in her life. I transformed in the space of a year into a person who loves her life, loves her friends and family, and even more importantly, loves herself.
As you read this book, you will share my journey from the night before my first session with the founder of Cognitive Hypnotherapist called Trevor Silvester, right through to the point where I was answering “Yes, I am happy” honestly to my daughter.
By the way, she never asks anymore because she knows the answer will always be “yes”!
When I got to the point of publishing my blog posts in “Nothing Needs to
be the Way it’s Always Been” I thought that I had reached a point where
I was “fixed”. A point in time where sharing my story would show how
far you could come in a relatively short space of time.
And in fairness, that’s what it did show.
However I was wrong on one thing. I had not reached a destination.
Life, it seems, is not actually about reaching a destination. Instead it is about the journey and the path you travel and the things that you learn along the way and sometimes that things that change you.
And so my journey continued.
I have learnt that life is not a race. And it certainly isn’t a race you want to win. There is no destination to head for so you may as well spend as much time as you can in the moment. Take everything you possibly can from this moment in time because it will pass too quickly and you’ll be on to the next one.
This is what I have learnt and will share with you through the collation of the blog posts in this book.
Life is not a race and if you think it is, take a moment to consider what reaching the finishing line really means.
A practical guide to help you make decisions and take action to manage your experience of menopause.
Learn more about the symptoms associated with menopause including hot flashes, night sweats, weight gain, mood swings and headaches
Top tips on diet, exercise and lifestyle to relieve common symptoms
Easy to follow mind/body techniques to reduce symptoms and enhance your mood
Information about HRT and a range of complementary and alternative therapie
This book is from Trevor Silvester, founder of Cognitive Hypnotherapy, transformer of lives, teacher extraordinaire and generally nice chap.
How to live with the one you love.
Lovebirds does for love and science what Linda Goodman's huge bestseller Lovesigns did for astrology.
'One of the biggest mistakes we make,' Trevor Silvester says, 'is to treat other people as if they are just like us. I'm a Harley Street therapist, and over nearly twenty years I've been helping couples improve their lives together, and one thing is clear to me: most couples don't flounder through lack of love, but through a lack of understanding.'
LOVEBIRDS includes a multiple choice test so that you can discover which type you - and your partner - belong to.
Then there is a description of each type - what makes them tick, their likes and dislikes, how they tend to behave, their body language, what they tend to look like, the line of work and hobbies they are likely to choose, their hopes and fears. So in this section you can read about yourself - and your partner.
The final section looks at all the different possible compatibility combinations between the types, showing how misunderstandings can arise and giving advice on how to keep love between the different types of birds going and growing.